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Thursday, February 5, 2015

A list of things I love about living in India...6 ~ Suits and Sari's

Next in my series on what I love about living in India is...

Suits and Sari's

The simplicity and elegance of the sari and comfort and ease of the suit take the stress out of fashion for me. Years in and I'm really just coming into my own sense of style. When I made the decision to marry a traditional Indian boy I also agreed to go all in, which meant covering myself in non sexy Indian garb. My husband is of the old school thought that my body should only been adored by him and like many men in his culture the thought of another man coveting his wife is not something he can take in stride. 


After marriage I was to wear only sari's for the first few weeks, my mother in laws rules. I got off easy my oldest Sister in Law had to wear a sari every day for one year! But hubby said enough was enough and while in the home I could convert to wearing suits and only during outings for the first six  months I was to wear a sari. Part of me resisted of course, no Canadian girl is going to like being told what I can and cannot wear but then I realized I loved this man, and it didn't matter what I had on, heck it's not like he was asking me to wear a burqa and truth be told I love him enough that I would! Once I surrendered it was actually nice, I always feel so feminine wrapped in this beautiful timeless fabric.




My husband admitted the first time he saw me in a sari he wanted to marry me on the spot. I can say the same, when I saw him in a traditional India suit for the first time, my heart skipped a beat, it was like looking at eternal love itself.













Suits can be ready made or purchased as material pieces then sewn together by a tailor to your specifications. My tastes and requirements have changed over the years. There are fancy party suits which I have yet to purchase, I still opt for a sari when we are heading out to any special functions but for everyday suits it can feel like you are sitting around in your pajama's all day, and that can make any girl, especially a Mom chasing two toddlers quite happy!






Stay tuned for the next installment in my series "What I love about living in India"


Thursday, April 21, 2011

Mirror Mirror on the wall...

When I first arrived back in India my face began breaking out like crazy, something that has never happened in my life, why Lord am I getting pimples and wrinkles at the same time? I fought with the image in the mirror each day as I scanned my skin noticing more and more imperfections. When I told one of my friends I was doing battle with my image of beauty, in his wisdom he asked if it was my battle or for the collective consciousness of female energy? It hit me like a ton of bricks, this isn’t just mine, women everywhere question their image at some point in their lives. He reminded me to truly hear voice the in my head, was it mine? If not why pay any attention to it?

My partner says “don’t worry, I am going with heart not face” I know this is supposed to be a compliment but tears stream down my cheeks. “What is wrong my love? You know if I wanted someone for just beauty I could be with many girls” my cry turns into a wail. My heart knows what he is trying to say but the insecure girl inside of me begs for clarification. He explains “Radhika you are beautiful, stunning, gorgeous, not just on the outside but more importantly on the inside, I have chosen to be with you in this life, why concern yourself with a few lines or a pimple, your looks don’t matter because your soul is connected to mine and our hearts beat together.” Love makes everything beautiful.

Inner beauty, we claim and deep in our hearts we know is what’s truly important, yet across the world many women everywhere are driven to improve their external beauty. Here in India the quest is as prevalent as it is in the west, girlfriends are concerned with their skin and its lightness, they go for regular facials with the aim of obtaining a ‘fair’ complexion, the fairest of them all is a literal translation here and most skin creams and even powders on the market have lightening agents in them, even North American favorite Ponds Cold Cream claims to give you ‘lighter skin in just ten days’ (although from the list of ingredients I’m not sure what they classify as a lightening agent).

The opposite is true in the west; with the obsession there being darker skin. A culture consumed with self tanners, bronzers and tanning beds. I can’t deny that a day in the sun does bring about a certain glow to a person. When someone is healthy they tend to have some colour in their cheeks, when someone is sick they’re pale. In the east the epitome of health is in a fairer complexion and an unhealthy lifestyle makes itself known with a darker undertone. I am witness to both. It’s very fascinating to me and I can’t help but ponder what the connection is? I’d love your thoughts on the subject…